Leadership and Self-Deception Rewind

Have you ever wondered why you never seem to get anywhere with some people? Does it seem that many of your most important relationships are constant battles? Do you feel like you have to put up with people? Do you need solutions for your people problems? Well, if you have not taken the opportunity to read Leadership and Self-Deception by the Arbinger Institute, do it!! This book will give you answers to all of those questions. If we are able to apply the book’s teachings, we will be amazing people and have much success and happiness in our relationships with others.

“Self-deception actually determines one’s experience in every aspect of life.”

As stated in the book, the number one reason for conflict and people problems is because of self-deception. Self-deception is essentially when we create our own reality and focus on ourselves. When we do this, two things happen. First, we don’t see we are part of the problem and second, we tend to treat people like objects rather than people. When we are self-deceived we also tend to inflate our own virtue and values as well as inflate the faults and weaknesses of others. Sadly, most of us spend most of our time self-deceived. And this self-deception causes a vicious cycle that kills productivity, causes frustration, and destroys relationships.

We must avoid ‘actively resisting what the humanity of others calls us to do for them.’

So how do we overcome it? It is not easy but it is possible. All of us are human beings and thus, we have desires to help others. How many of us walking down the street would not run to the aid of a child who we observe falling off his bike? This book teaches us that when we have those feelings to help others, we must act on them. When we don’t, we betray ourselves. When we betray ourselves, we look for ways to justify what we have done so that we can feel good about ourselves. This process often leads us to desire the exact opposite of what we really want. When we learn however to act on these feelings of humanity rather than betraying ourselves, we find that we are able to see things clearly and treat people as people.

In a nutshell, the key teaching of the book is that we must focus on others rather than ourselves and when we do, we invite others to respond in the same way. So, if we can truly focus on others, and see them as equals to us, our people problems will melt away, and our relationships with them will be strengthened.

In order to fully appreciate and embrace these ideas, one must read the book. The book is an excellent source for helping us reach our potential as leaders and as people. For more information and to purchase the book click here…